In the words of Paramore, forgiving is not forgetting. Let’s talk about the problem with the saying “forgive and forget”, you can and should forgive but you should NEVER forget. You got hurt, a person did something bad to you, you can’t just forget that. That was a lesson and a warning, you can forgive them for the sake of your peace of mind but you should still look out for those signs, and it is not about having trust issues, it’s about protecting yourself.
I personally learned that this was the way to go, to move forward with life. So many people did me wrong and I didn’t know why I felt guilty because I said to myself that I forgave them but deep inside I was still hurt, and I didn’t forget what they did. I just couldn’t forgive them and just forget what they did to me, that was a lesson for me that I should have known from the start and I will be a complete idiot if they get to do it again. Then I started thinking to just move on and not be bothered by them anymore, I should just cut them off and stop caring if they’ll feel like that I am not the same person that I was before and that is their fault (that sounded so bad). It’s like for me, okay I forgive them, I don’t really care that much anymore about what happened but I will not let myself go through that again, what’s important is my inner peace, and it’s better if I just move on without them.
Okay, that sounded so bitter but it’s the best way to take care of your mental health. Why would you let yourself be pressured into fixing a relationship when you know they are never going to change? If the things they did to you is just a cycle, they say sorry then it’s fine, then it will happen again. Forgiveness is about letting go of the anger, and freeing yourself from hatred. And to effectively do it is by moving on and leaving it behind but also carrying the lesson it gave you. It’s really better to just move on and protect your inner peace, you are wiser now. Don’t let them bother you again. So, stop the saying “forgive and forget”, it should be “forgive and move on”.
I’m leaving you with a Paramore song that inspired me to write this one…
This is a follow up post to my previous one, you know the one where I called out bad content creators (yikes!) as I’ve said who you follow reflects who you are, I know no one asked me who I’m following on social media but Imma share it.
I have two current obsessions right now in terms of internet personality: Bretman Rock & Ashley Ippolito.
via Instagram @bretmanrock
I love him because he’s a Filipino like me but living in the U.S and he’s killing it there as Youtuber. He’s a beauty guru/influencer but he actually started as a comedian first and he still does some crazy and funny things until now. Funny thing is he is gay but heterosexual females are all over him because he is that damn fine. His make-up is so on point all the time, I don’t even know how to do a simple make-up 😂. I find him super funny like I literally watch all of his video to make myself laugh lol. He is such a real person that’s what I like about celebrities and personalities, you sense how genuine a person is. He curse a lot though, so viewers discretion if you’re going to watch him 😁
Our internet mom ❤️ Okay, I didn’t expect to like a reactor on Youtube because I find them faking their reactions on what they’re listening or watching but this girl has the funniest reactions and comments, and I find her quirkiness to be cute which adds up to the comedic side of her videos. She’s also just simple and not trying too hard just to make a content. I also appreciate how she gives advice on mental health and using her platform to actually talk about the importance of actually talking about it and taking care of yourself. I’m obsessed with her videos right now, I find myself watching her videos from years ago and I’m seriously laughing too damn hard. She has 3 channels that you could check out:
These are my current obsessions right now, and I realized that these two has a similarity; they are not afraid to make fun of themselves but at the same time they can kick haters ass 😆
Several weeks ago, I watched this video of a vlogger named Tom Kuegler on his page Finding Tom. He talked about one infamous video of another vlogger where he shamed and degraded a public transportation driver, it went viral and Tom went on to say that this vlogger did a terrible thing but still gets a lot of attention.
Tom stated in his video that there are good and bad content creators out there, and we need to be careful who we follow online.
This is so true in todays time, there are plenty of content creators that get backlash from what they did but still get attention from the public, they even get more famous for it. It’s all about publicity right? Tom also pointed out that these “bad content creators” get confidence because of the attention that they are getting, and they immediately think that every thing that they do is a great idea. The validation they get from the views, likes, and subscriptions fuels them to create more stupid content. Just like what Tom said, it takes away the attention from genuine creators who’s being cautious and mindful towards the viewers’ perception on what they intake from their video. These bad vloggers/bloggers get so much validation that they forget the content they make and how it’s going to be viewed by others, they think every one will like it just because they created it.
One more thing I hate about these bad content creators is how people still manage to waste their time on them, giving them attention and fame. Like, why? I mean you hate what they did so much but you still watch them? You still follow them? You create memes about them, the hypocrisy in that is way off the roof. I personally think that who and what you follow online says a lot about you, I mean you follow a certain topic because it resonates to your ideals right? I mean, for me I follow a certain personality online because of what they do, and how great their personality is. Deep inside, I want to do what they do or I want to be friends with them. My point there is that why do people follow a “bad vlogger/blogger”? What do they get from them? Like, vloggers who do dangerous pranks? (There’s a reason MTV Jackass is not suited in today’s time anymore). What do people get from it? Entertainment? Really? You enjoy making fun of others? Okay, that’s your choice, and that says something about yourself.
Many people now aspire to be a youtuber, blogger etc. But I seriously think that being an influencer has a responsibility on what they create and how it’s going to be viewed, and they should also aspire to be a role model whether they like it or not. I’m not buying what they say that they are not trying to please people. Basically, that’s what they signed up for when they decided that they want to be an influencer or internet famous. They were given a platform, they are a public figure, they take the good from it but there is also the bad in it, and whether they like it or not being cautious on their every move is part of their job.
The point of this post is to tell you that be careful who you follow, be careful of the content you take from social media and the internet. It may seem like it’s not a big deal but it is a big deal, it affects you in little ways that you don’t even notice. What you take from what you follow creates this image in your mind, that you unconsciously and suddenly want in your own life. It creates fake ideals that you’ll become upset later on because you don’t have it or it’s far from being achieved. What you follow online affects how you see yourself, and right now internet has its ways to bring that down. All I’m saying here is that don’t pressure yourself to follow the trends or to be updated all the time, follow what you love online and read things that will benefit you. Make internet and social media a healthy space again. 😄
I want to know who and what you follow online? Which celebrity? What topics and trends are you into? Let me know in the comments 😊
1,000 FOLLOWERS!!! That’s crazy though, like how? And why? 😂
Thank you all for the follows, likes, views, & comments. It all means a lot especially to a girl like me who started this to have an outlet of thoughts and emotions, never expecting any one would read it and actually relate to what I’m going through. Even though I wasn’t the most active, it’s really cool that people still read my old writings. ❤️